За български натисни тук.
I TRY to write regularly – every new and full moon at least. So today is a new moon and I think is a good time to release this post. Enjoy!
I feel it’s a good day (it’s actually night) for shredding some old beliefs. Today I thought a lot about the stereotypes in society and the idea that you are not good enough, you don’t do what you should, don’t look like you should or, to sum it up – you are not who you are expected to be.
Usually this idea is planted in the early years when the child is not playing how it is supposed to (or “where”), is not learning how it is supposed to or is not eating what and how it is supposed to (you are small, trust the adults, not your own body)
Then the idea (now a sprouting seed) continues to be carefully watered in the teen years, often by ourselves – your grades are not good enough, school sucks, you’re not cool enough, your family is not rich enough. Then comes the university where you MUST study for exams, memorize and be judged accordingly. Then comes the boss who is convincing you that you’re an idiot and you must work more.
This way the idea is growing, branching like a big beautiful tree and slowly wrapping its roots around your heart, which, somewhere underneath is crying:
But you are who you are, you are beautiful, smart and good enough, you are UNIQUE and that’s the reason no one, ever, will be better that you, for you!
But heart’s words are long ago buried under the roaring advice, blame, self-accusing, society’s; friends’; parents’; partner’s and our own’s expectations.
This can not continue forever.
Because behind the words of every parent, teacher, concerned friend there is scared child, just like you in this moment. One kid, longing for someone to say to them – “You are good enough and I love you for who you are.” Behind the worried, serious or even angry faces of the people around you, there is a bunch of kids. Kids like you in the game of life. They also crave to be accepted for what they are deep inside – children, who came here to play, to create, to have fun.
Somewhere under the degree, under the credit card, under your carefully ironed shirt, are hidden your childhood drawings, you toys, the clothes you didn’t care you will get dirty in the hide-and-seek. They are still there. Waiting for you to continue playing, to remember, that you didn’t come here only for the money, or the authority, or the recognition.
Why did you come? Wasn’t it for the feeling, the joy of this body, the movement? Wasn’t it to walk the path in laugh and tears, laugh through tears? Didn’t you come to join everyone, yet recognise the uniqueness in everyone, yet everyone walking together? Didn’t you come to help your friend stand up? And after all this, all of us to get around the big, round table and talk about this spectacular, diverse road, called life, and laugh at a few jokes?
Do you remember now?
For this next time you are told that you have to work for him or her, to be like this or like that – do not conform. HAVE TO is a concept made up by people, because they are afraid of people different that themselves. There is nothing you HAVE to do.
There is only infinite possibilities.
Following is a short clip I made with words from Vadim Zeland (translation pending :D ):